Friday, November 8, 2013


We are surrounded by lots of "Why's ", at times we ignore it, at times we reason it out but then there comes a time when we just give up against why's. 
And then comes a cold death, Slowly and gradually those given up why's take us in grip and strip us down; bombing us with the dilemmas, confusion and head-banging moments.

Ok, i exaggerated. But you do agree that from time to time we do get some "why's" which surprises us and have no answers, right?!

Some time back we visited some of our friends in a  nice small gathering; we played a game where you are suppose to talk good things about your partners, offcourse it was a game and main purpose was to have fun and yet thought provoking it was ! 
It is amazing how granted we take our partners ! And it is amazing how words-bound we feel when we are not prepared for a question and we have to hit it on the spot. 

It made me think if it is really that we do not know or is it because of not being able to make up our mind on what can be shared, at what extend?

I have seen lots of people and even at times have been on a receiving end while sharing some things, sometimes on the name of not to look  like a show-off and at times on the name of not to put your good-will subject to evil-eyes and blessings of jealous souls. 
Do you think there is anything like jinx?
Can that be real, can anyone jinx something good?
Can anyone jinx your happiness?

There are so many things we don't know; we are not sure about and yet when we are not able to reason it out we just let it be and accept it as it is.

You got a beautiful baby; why putting so many pics online, not all are good people you see?
You made a luxury vacation? Why broadcasting on social media, not all are good people you see?
You bought a new house? You got a new high-profile job? Much deserving promotion? Got the latest hi-tech phone? A super sexy luxury car? A wonderful date? Visit to a posh restaurant? Won a lottery? No need to show off, not all are good people you see?

What is definition of good and not good people?
"Good" who feels happy for you and "Not good" who doesn't feel happy for you, is it?
Or just because someone can feel jealous, he is not good? But isn't jealousy a normal feeling, like happiness or sadness ? Is there anyone who never felt jealous of anyone for even once, for even a bit. Difference is some overcome that feeling and can talk their mind through it and some gets over possessed with the feeling and cannot overcome it that easily.

A strained relationship, whether to blame on involved individuals on how they handle it or on people who felt jealous or wished bad things for them seeing them happy together in past?
Isn't up and down part and parcel of life; of any relationship; why do we need reasons to blame it on? Why can't we just accept the fact and move on?
Why do you have to run away from being responsible, are we not strong enough to handle consequences of our own actions that we need reasons to blame it on someone else, something else?

Is it because we live under a social pressure to look perfect all the time?

Was it same if you had a fight with your friend in the school? Did you hide it from all? Then why do you have to hide it when you have a fight with your adult friend or your partner? When we don't judge our kids by the problems with their friends, why are we judged when we have problems with someone? Because we are all grown up and are supposed to handle our emotions in a better way? !
But is it even possible to suppress your emotions on the name of being in control of? Why can't we live in a moment, why can't we be like kids? Why can't we laugh forever on a silliest thing and why do we need reasons to be happy !  
Is it bad to be a kid, or have an innocence of a kid? No, right?
Then we are on the same page.

See, i told you so many Why's? There is no end but it is in our hands to make some why's work in our favour.
Why to wait then, why don't we get together and laugh till our stomach hurts? No reason, right?
So let's leave why's behind, let's just do it.

See you around, yes you. Thanks for being around.


Unknown said...

It can't be better than this!!!

sudhakar said...

Lopa, you have written good thought provoking article.
For all our happy and sorrow, we think outside world is responsible, because that is the way we are grownup. But for our happy/sad feelings we ourselves are responsible - thinking other way inside-out keeps us feel happy all the time as we need not depend on outside world, I mean especially people.

Anonymous said...

Hi Lopa,

Stuti here. You have a great talent. Keep it up!!!!

~ Lopa said...

@ Viral Pandya ,
:-) Thanks a lot.

~ Lopa said...

@ sudhakarji,
Thank you for taking time out to read and express your views from your experiences as well. It's a continuous learning, this life.

~ Lopa said...

@ Stuti Puri Kulshrestha,

Hi Stuti, Thanks a lot. It's comments like this which keeps me motivated enough to keep sharing. Thanks once again :-)

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