The trauma once passes through that is truly painful and equally stressful.
There is a contrast which life brings, while a few of the friends are still single not ready to commit, the score of divorce will reach 5 with two of my very good friends going on the path of splitting up this year, and no it has nothing to do with what everyone conceives of India "Land of arrange Marriages"
When we were in our teenage, we thought break up was "the end of the world", at least for us, at least it felt that way for sometime until we learn to move on.
But it wasn't, right?
And so even divorce isn't.
It is just when one is not married, it is a bit easier to separate things than when one is married. * ( yes conditions apply and exceptions are always there )
I remember the times when every Indian used to think "Divorce" as "Unthinkable".
But now i see the change coming. And i am happy for this more accepting society.
So what's actually happening here?
People are being more open minded to accept it or people are becoming more intolerant and too stiff to make a little necessary adjustments needed for a relationship work?
I keep hearing it that "Life is too long if you are with a wrong person" , I would defer a little bit here, it is not a wrong person, it is an incompatible person resulting in a wrong relationship. Someone not compatible with xyz might be compatible with abc. There is just no comparison, every individual is different !
There are lots of debates blaming it on women liberalisation, Women getting more career-oriented than before and changed priorities ! But is it really?
Every relationship has some problems, even one with which we grow up. One has to try to work it out, and each of us does that. But what when a relationship starts to suffocate you and you start feeling like living as a fish out of water !
I can see the change coming in how people perceive things, and I am happy that people are more open to the fact that everytime it is not necessary that compromises work and sometimes just leaving and moving on can be a better option !
While i always wished for my friends that things will work out for them and there will be some kind of miracle out there, bringing their life back to happily ever after, now i see more clearly that sometimes moving on is a better option.
Now as they have already made a decision for themselves i see that with everyday stress gone, they look more serene.
That peace obtained with acceptance within, reflects as a peaceful and happier glow on their faces.
I feel happy looking at them as at least now they look happier than before !
Bravo girls, there is a new world awaiting for you, a new tomorrow ! Make most of it.